If you’re like me, it’s always on your mind- Am I teaching my child enough? Am I giving her enough attention? Should I be doing more to help her learn? Could I be a better mom?? The mom guilt is REAL and it’s totally normal.
We always feel like we could be doing more for our children: feeding them better, teaching them more, being more patient with them.
Then, life sometimes gets in the way when we have to go to work, clean the house, make dinner, take kids to activities and practices, and still make time for our husband too.
My daughter is 13 months and I’m always thinking, what should I be teaching her? Should she start learning her colors? Her ABC’s and numbers? Should she be coloring? Learning how to build block towers or animal sounds?
Maybe this is the occupational therapist in me, since I’m used to teaching babies and children and know that there’s always more to learn. However, I’m sure most moms go through those feelings too.
How are they learning?
Especially at this age, our children are little sponges! They are taking in every little ounce of knowledge about the world around them. Every sound, color, picture, and movement.
They are watching our every move, listening to our every word and picking it up so quickly. So first of all, when you feel like you’re not doing enough, remember that they’re always learning by just watching you all day!
You don’t have to reinvent the wheel to develop activities, especially at this age. Most of these don’t require any set up or materials and just can be done while you’re sitting and playing with them.
Remember, you don’t need high-tech fancy toys for your child. The best way they learn is through problem solving and imaginative play with objects and toys that are simple enough to do a wide array of things with.
14 Activities You Should Be Doing With Your 1-Year-Old
Here are a few activities that are simple enough to do
1. Reading books
Books are incredible teachers of language. Just looking at the pictures of so many new objects, people, colors, and shapes can spark much curiosity and learning in their minds.
My daughter LOVES books. She will hand us a book to read to her and snuggle up on our lap.
Even though her attention span usually only lasts through 3 pages, she is so excited to look at the pictures and colors.
Lift-the-flap books are her favorite and toddlers love lifting the flap to see whats behind it. We have a ton of baby board books at our house, but if you don’t, you can go to your local library and lend them out.
Most libraries also offer free story time in the mornings so check their events to see what baby/toddler activities they have.
You don’t have to actually read the book word for word, but point out every picture and describe it. Have them repeat it back. This will help improve language.
When you’re reading, tell the child to turn the page. Also, ask your child to point to a picture.
If you are the one reading, use your finger to follow along with the words on the page so your baby learns to recognize letters and words.
2. Describing what they’re doing (Developing language)
If she’s merely just sitting and playing, use language to say everything she’s doing and using, the color and shape of an item, and what action is happening.
For example, “You’re putting the bead in the cup, you’re throwing the red ball, you’re walking over to the steps.” Your child will now be able to associate words with his or her actions.
3. Promote Independence
Your little one is probably begging to start doing things on her own by now. She will grab at the spoon, tooth brush, and even diaper wipes. Let them try to do these things on their own!
Of course they may not be very successful at it, but don’t be intimidated by the mess it will make or that they won’t be able to complete the task.
Guide them in parts of the activity that they actually can complete, like assisting with dressing.
Tell them to pull the shirt down over their
4. Pretend play
Using their imagination opens up a world of fun and play for your toddler. This skill typically comes naturally as they copy and imitate what they see in the real world, in books, or on tv.
Whether it’s a play kitchen, tea party set, feeding a baby doll, driving a car, or sweeping the floor, your little one will love to participate in activities that she sees you doing.
See more examples of pretend play items here: Developmentally Appropriate Toys for a 1 Year Old
5. Inset Puzzles
Puzzles are great for developing so many skills!
They’ll be developing hand-eye coordination with flipping and turning the pieces to fit them in their slots, fine motor skills by using their little hands to grasp and manipulate the little pegs or whole wooden pieces, and problem solving by letting their brains figure out the best ways to fit the piece in the space or where it’s matching counterpart is.
At the same time, your child can be developing cognitive skills while also learning the concepts of the pictures on the puzzle, whether it be colors, shapes, animals (like the one above) or this one, foods, etc.
Chunky peg puzzles are best for younger 1 year olds, but as they get older, they can do puzzles of smaller sizes.
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6. Uninterrupted one-on-one time
PUT YOUR PHONE DOWN AND PLAY! Trust me, I’m so guilty of it too. With all the technology we have access to now, it’s hard to just spend the time sitting on the floor playing.
I try to dedicate at least a 20 minute block a day (I know that doesn’t seem like a lot at all) where I am completely in the zone with my toddler. I ask her what she wants to play with, what song she wants me to sing, or what book she wants me to read.
We do get one-one-one time through out the day like meal times or night time routines, but a lot of the day she’s just running around next to me while I’m doing the laundry, watching tv, scrolling through facebook, or cleaning the kitchen.
I made it a goal that I would just sit down in her play room and have fun for a block of time through out the day. I don’t bring my phone or laptop in and we just play.
It may seem like they’re too young to know that you’re not paying attention to them, but trust me, they’re always watching. Your child will appreciate the on-on-one time more than you know.
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7. Singing songs with gestures
I’m sure you’re well aware of all the kiddie songs, such as The Wheels on The Bus, Row Row Row Your Boat, Old McDonald, etc. You can be singing these songs at any time: in the car, changing diapers, giving a bath.
Children will love the rhythm and music. Demonstrate hand gestures while you’re singing and your baby will be sure to imitate!
This helps them in learning parts of the body, concepts like up/down, open/close, and sounds of animals, to name a few.
These are my daughter’s favorites:
- Head, shoulders, knees, and toes
- Itsy, bitsy spider
- Wheels on the Bus
- Row, Row, Row your boat
- Old McDonald
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This is a great fine motor activity that 1 year olds should start practicing. It teaches them cause and effect: that they make a mark on the paper and it stays there.
All you need is paper and crayons. I highly suggest these finger crayons for the young ones. They are perfect for little hands and promote a good grasp when holding the crayons.
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9. Teaching Colors
Everything your child plays with or touches has a color. It’s easy to point out colors to them and even group things by color. For example, if you see a red ball, red crayon, and red block in their toy box, show them all of these together and that they are red.
They should really start being able to distinguish different colors around 18 months. They will know the difference between them, although naming them may still be difficult.
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10. Making Music
Babies LOVE music! They can make music on their own or while listening to music played on the radio or sound system. If you have toy instruments like maracas, xylophone, tamborine, etc. that’s great to use, but you can also make musical ‘instruments’ with so many household objects.
You can have them shake a pill bottle (child safety sealed, of course) to make noise, bang a wooden spoon on a pot, box, tin can, counter top to make various sounds, fill plastic easter eggs with uncooked beans or rice and shake them.
Turn up the tunes on your tv, radio, or Amazon Alexa, and dance with your toddler! Every baby loves to get their moves on when they hear music. They’ll have fun and it will tire them out quickly too!
12. Teach body parts
You can do this while you’re changing diapers, during meal time, or just while you’re snuggling in bed. Point out your child’s eyes, nose, mouth, teeth, head, hair, ears, hands, feet, etc.
Show them on their bodies, a doll’s body, as well as your own. Then at other times in the day ask them, Where’s your nose? Where are your eyes?
13. Get Outside
Kids love the outdoors and get stir crazy when you keep them inside all day. Take them for a walk and point out all the sights you see: green trees, blue sky, house, car, road.
They’re soaking up all of this vocabulary so get them to see a little more.
Blow bubbles, pick up leaves, or run through the sprinkler. If they need to be outside to run around and get some energy out, sitting in the grass is a great sensory experience. Getting some sunshine and running around a bit will even tire them out if they’re refusing a nap.
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14. Stacking blocks
This activity also helps improve your child’s
They should pick it up quickly and want to imitate you.
This Melissa & Doug Alphabet block set is great for older 1 year olds to stack, but great fine motor practice for the younger ones. Kids also love Mega Bloks which are great for stacking, putting together, and taking apart.
Toys and activities like these encourage imaginative play and let them problem solve and investigate the world around them.
7 Lessons to Teach Your Toddler Early On
Here are some lessons that you can start teaching your
1. Good Hygiene
Teaching your child to practice good hygiene is great to start young.
- washing hands after meals and potty
- brushing teeth morning and night
- bathing daily
- brushing and combing hair
- cutting finger and toenails
- cleaning inside ears with a q-tip
- keeping their clothes and body clean
- covering their mouth when they sneeze or cough
thiernose into a tissue
Of course, safety is a crucial lesson to teach your child. This is the age where they will probably have no fear or understanding of dangerous situations.
They following practices need to be taught and don’t just come naturally to your little one:
- not running away in public
- not running out into a parking lot
- stranger danger
- staying close to mom or dad
- being cautious when crossing streets
- holding hands with others when in public or outside
- sun safety: applying sunscreen, wearing hats
3. Respect for others
Understanding how to properly treat others is a valuable trait to instill in your child. This goes for respecting both adults and other children.
At this age, they are starting to test their boundaries and explore new ways of getting what they want. Instill rules for respecting others even through times of frustration.
Teach them not to push, hit, bite, or pull hair and not to hurt others in any way.
4. Acting appropriately in public
The toddler tantrum that happens in the middle of Target can leave you feeling quite embarrassed. Although it’s hard to completely remove these behaviors because it’s your child’s way of expressing himself at this point, there are ways to reduce them.
Try putting rules in place when you are out so they know what is expected of them. Always have a way to redirect or distract them when you see a tantrum starting (using something else they are interested in). Lastly, just avoid situations that could set them off.
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5. You can’t always get what you want
Toddlers are very ego-centric (only care about themselves). It’s totally normal for them to only think about how things will effect them.
This almost always leads to inappropriate behaviors as they learn what behaviors get them what they want. Don’t always give in to every cry and teach them that sometime they don’t get everything that they want.
6. Eating a variety of healthy foods
It’s important to start your child with eating healthy foods early on in life to set them off for a healthy diet for the rest of their life.
Offering them a variety of fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and proteins will help them to develop a preference for these types of foods.
Avoid processed snacks when possible. The more they have those foods, the less they will enjoy the healthy ones!
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7. Keeping their body private
My toddler loves to be naked, especially since she started potty training. It’s so hard getting her dressed in the morning because she screams and fights it so hard.
Sometimes she just wants to strip down and take off her shirt or pants in public. I’ve had to talk to her often about how it’s not appropriate to be naked in public and that our bodies are private.