Managing 2 under 2: Tips to Stay In Control

I’ve been a stay-at-home mom to 2 under 2 for the past 6 months and I can definitely say things have gotten easier since the beginning. I feel more in control than ever and I’ve learned so much more about being a mom and life in general. My kids are already turning into the best of friends and are just starting to be able to play and interact with one another.

Over the past few months, I’ve gotten into a good routine and am learning how to manage my time and space better to make life a little simpler. Even though most days run smoothly, children are unpredictable so there are always days that are just out of whack.

Although life is a lot busier, in some ways having 2 kids has made me a better mom. I’m less anxious and worried over every little thing. I know that I’ve already kept one baby safe and healthy for almost 2 years so I can surely do it again!

I have better time management because I know there’s no way I can make it anywhere on time if I don’t start the process way ahead of time. I plan ahead for leaving the house based around feedings and naps and am usually able to stick to a good schedule.

Although my toddler still can’t do that much for me, she helps out in little ways. For example, she learned how to get me a burp cloth for the baby, wipe up her messes, and hand me wipes. She is becoming more independent at mealtimes and playtime which is so helpful.

The biggest positive change is that she is able to communicate more. Now at 20 months, she can tell me when she wants to eat, sleep, play, sing songs, something hurts, or wants something. This causes less meltdowns and makes it easier for us to understand her needs.

The tips below will help you stay in control of your life with 2 under 2 mainly within those first few months. There are easy days and tough days, but you always get through it!

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If you have 2 kinds under 2 years old, your life is probably pretty hectic. Here are some helpful tips to follow in order to maintain control and make your life easier.

Be flexible with your schedule/routine

I had my 1 year old on a really good schedule before the baby was born and it all got shaken up once we brought the baby home. I tried to be strict with a daily routine for both of them at first, but it just kept getting thrown off. You should definitely have a general flow of the day, but don’t think you need to stick to specific times because babies can be unpredictable!

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Clean as you go

Mealtimes tend to be the time where most of the mess is made. I used to be able to leave things out and clean up throughout the day, but now I don’t have that extra time to do it. Tidy things up as the messes are made (and while your toddler is strapped in their highchair!)

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Toddler proof your home

Your 1 year old will be into EVERYTHING. Toddler proof your home to the best of your abilities in order to eliminate any potential messes and catastrophes before they happen. This means locking all cabinets, garbage cans, & toilets, keeping doors closed to rooms and closets, and not leaving anything out within a toddler’s reach. It will save you so much time if you’re not cleaning up after him/her all day.

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Synchronize nap times

Your 1 year old may still be on two naps or have switched to one. To the best of your abilities, sync up their nap times together so you get one block of time where both kids are asleep. I try to feed the newborn and put him down for a nap right before I put the toddler down.

Since the toddler has a more predictable nap schedule, I want to make sure that the newborn is sleeping before the toddler starts her nap. This can usually guarantee me at least an hour and a half of ‘me time.’

Plan out your day and have things ready the night before

This is a must if you’re planning on ever getting out of the house. Have everything ready that you can and put it by the door or in the car to limit the amount of steps before leaving the house. Pack the diaper bag completely, a bag of any refrigerated items needed (bottles, toddler meals) kept in the fridge, have clothes laid out, and jackets and shoes by the door. Also, have a time frame for leaving the house and know what you will need to do in order to get out on time.

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Give yourself A LOT more time that you think you need to leave the house

Even if you’re all prepared the night before, you’ll always need more time! Factor in extra time for last minute diaper changes and spit ups, getting coats and shoes on, and putting them in the car seats. It seriously takes a lot longer than you think!

Have people come visit you

When you first bring your baby home, it may be overwhelming to have company. However, as the weeks go on, it may be more helpful to have visitors coming to you. You won’t be able to get out of the house much during the first few weeks, especially if it’s in cold weather months. I’m the type of person who needs a social outlet for my own mental health, so I prefer having people come over since it’s too stressful to go out.

Don’t even try going to a house that’s not baby proofed! It’s hard enough to chase around a toddler, but when your crying newborn needs to eat, it can be a mess.

Use delivery to your advantage

Don’t give yourself too many jobs to do. Grocery shopping and cooking being two of them. I LOVE having a weeks worth of groceries showing up at my doorstep with the click of a button. Shipt is one of my favorite grocery delivery services because of SAME DAY SHIPPING. It offers a wide range of stores depending what area you’re located.

I also do meal delivery services, like Hello Fresh and Gobble, and of course, Amazon Prime 2 day shipping for everything! I’ve realized certain things that are not worth my time and that I’d rather use that time to spend with my family.

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Gobble Food Delivery

Ask for and accept help

Don’t be too proud to ask a relative or friend for some help if you need it. There will be times when things just get overwhelming, especially if you or a child is sick. If people know you have 2 under 2, they should be offering to lend a hand. You’ll be grateful that you got a little break so you can be recharged for the next day.

Don’t overextend yourself

Don’t take on too much too soon. If you tell yourself you need to have the house cleaned, laundry done, dinner made, work started, and shopping done, you’re going to be very discouraged when you realize there’s no way you can do it all.

Give yourself just one thing a day and if you accomplish that, do another. If you need to hire a house cleaner or get take out, that is okay and better for your own sanity!

Put the newborn down for naps

Newborns are unpredictable nappers so it’s hard to get on a schedule with them off the bat. The best thing you can do to help their sleep associations is to not hold them during nap times. When you notice they’re getting drowsy, don’t let them fall asleep in your arms every time, but put them down in their swing, bassinet, bouncer, etc.

You can’t get much done around the house or catering to a toddler with a baby in your arms at all times. So get your baby used to being put down often, so they don’t need you to fall asleep every time. Maybe your first child got away with taking naps in your arms all day, but it’s just not practical when you’re chasing, feeding, dressing, and playing with a toddler.

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Use a baby carrier or wrap

If you have 2 kinds under 2 years old, your life is probably pretty hectic. Here are some helpful tips to follow in order to maintain control and make your life easier.

If your baby won’t let you put them down, these will be lifesaving. Do you know how long it takes to unload a dishwasher while holding a newborn in one hand and trying to feed your toddler a snack? It’s multitasking at it’s finest, but won’t get you anywhere fast.

When your newborn just needs to be held and you have a million things to do, these are a must. I use the Baby K’Tan Wrap around the house and it allows me to carry the newborn hands-free so I can cater to my toddler’s constant needs. It works great!

Read my guest post on the Benefits of Baby Wearing for Mom and Baby.

Wake up early

This is something that’s still hard for me to do, but when I do it, I feel so great! It’s difficult to set an alarm to be up before 7am when you’re awake multiple times during the night with a newborn. However, if you do get into a routine of waking up before BOTH children, you will be able to get so much accomplished, even if it’s just your early morning social media scroll and cup of coffee.

Get the toddler to help you

If they’re in the early 1 year old range, they won’t be able to do as much, but you can keep training them to understand your needs better. My daughter has learned to get things for me while I’m nursing (burp cloth, socks, bib), clean up her spills and messes, put the pacifiar in the baby’s mouth when he’s crying, etc. Have these items easily accessible so he/she can help out. Your toddler will also be so excited to be able to help.

Once your baby is a few months old and you’re not as worried about the toddler trampling him, then they can actually help you entertain your baby. Now that my little one is 6 months, if he is crying, I’ll tell my toddler to go over and play with him. She can bring a toy over, touch his legs, or just smile at him, and he is immediately happy.

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Get out of the house

It can be so easy to stay inside at home all day because it’s just easier. The process of getting both kids dressed, fed, coats and shoes on, and put into the car seats just seems like so much work and that’s just BEFORE we even leave the house. However, staying inside all day can really do a number to your mood.

It’s important to make plans or have a schedule so that you feel human and not just a slave to spit up and dirty diapers. I have a mommy-and-me class that I try to go to 4 times a week. It’s always at the same time everyday so I have a routine and schedule and know when I need to get out of the house. There are local libraries to go to for story time, Gymboree, Little Gym, swim lessons, music class, etc. where you can have a weekly class as an excuse to get your kids out of the house.

Independent play for your toddler

Nap time can fly by and as much as you try to sync up naps, it doesn’t always work out that way. You may need more time to yourself even after naps. Dedicate a time and space where your toddler can go that you can keep him/her to play independently without you by their side or roaming the house, creating a mess.

I use an open play room that has a baby gate which I can shut. You can also use a play pen or even their own room if there are things in there to occupy them. Set aside a time that they will stay in there for at least 20 minutes so you can continue to get things done.

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Keep newborn out of toddler’s reach

Your 1 year old may not know how to be gentle enough with a newborn yet. It’s best to keep your newborn up high so the toddler can’t reach him, or block him off with a gate or other items so you’re not constantly worried if he/she is getting to him.

My daughter loves to find the baby, but just doesn’t know her own strength yet. For my own peace of mind, I try to keep her away from the baby so I’m not yelling at her all day. Once your youngest is a few months old, this isn’t as much of a concern.

Try to turn the mental block off

Sometimes we can tell ourselves that something is going to be too hard or stressful before we even do it, and then we talk ourselves out of it. I know I do this to myself with just running errands or going out for a walk. Try to think more positively about an outing and just do it! If you think too much about it, you may not want to.

Promote more independence of your toddler

If you have 2 kinds under 2 years old, your life is pretty hectic. Here are some helpful tips to follow to maintain control and make your life easier.

Get them started on being more independent, as much as possible. This may take time, but it will make your life easier in the near future. Start potty training early, teach them to dress themselves or help with dressing, brush their teeth, put shoes on, etc. If they are on the younger side of 1, they won’t be able to do that much, but you’ll be setting them up for positive experiences in the long run.

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Have a cleaning schedule

Not for kids, but for yourself. It can be helpful to have reminders of the tasks you need to complete when you’re home since many of these things will slip your mind when you’re constantly thinking about the kids. I do much better when I write things down and can see what it is I need to do. Nothing is better than crossing off items on a to-do list to make you feel accomplished.

Early bedtime for the kids

If you have 2 kinds under 2 years old, your life is pretty hectic. Here are some helpful tips to follow to maintain control and make your life easier.

Hopefully by now you have a successful bedtime routine with your toddler and he/she should be going to bed around 7pm. This is helpful because once your 1 year old is down for the night, you will have more time to yourself, with your newborn, and with your partner.

Around 3 months you should be able to also start putting down your youngest around 7pm too. This is so helpful to have the night to yourself to get things done that you’re not able to when juggling 2 under 2.

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Seriously. Some days I am just so busy and forget to eat. Then it’s 4pm and I need to start making dinner. Try and eat when your kids eat so you’ve got energy for the day.

Find your village

They say it takes a village to raise a child right? So find that group of people who lift you up and help you when you need it. It could be friends, family, coworkers, neighbors, or whomever is willing to listen.

Sometimes you just need people to talk to (especially other moms) who understand your situation and what you’re going through. Maybe you need to vent about how stressful your day was or ask someone their opinion on Huggies vs Pampers while you’re at Target. Whatever the reason is, you need a group of women (or even just one) who totally get what you’re going through.

For me, being a stay-at-home mom can be lonely, but I have old friends and new mom friends that I can talk to. They all can relate to what I deal with every day and it’s always helpful to have someone to lean on.

Be positive

Have confidence that you are doing the best you can mama! There’s no one better at raising your children than you. The days are looooong, but the years are short. Even though this can be a stressful time, you will look back and be so proud of how great you did.

Also read, Managing Breastfeeding as a Busy Mom of 2

Although some days are tough, having children so close together is a blessing and I can’t wait to see them grow up as best friends. Do you have any other ways that you manage the long days with 2 under 2?

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