One of the toughest part of pregnancy is coming up with a name for your baby. After all, it’s an important part of who they are and will be attached to them for the rest of their life. You may have been racking your brain for months trying to come up with that perfect name, but nothing is clicking.
There are so many things to consider when choosing a name and depending what is most important to you, there can be a lot of variables. You may like a lot of names, but can’t use them for some reason, or none of the names are jumping out at you right now. Just know that you may not be so fond of a name at first, but once you start associating it with your baby, you will fall in love with it.
How we chose our son’s name
We found out that our second baby would be a boy when I was around 10 weeks pregnant. Super early I know! As soon as we found out, we started talking about names.
Working as an elementary school therapist, I was always around young children with new and unique, as well as traditional, names. It was actually helpful when I was pregnant because I was exposed to so many more names than most people. Sometimes I would just walk down the hallway and look at all the student’s names on the classroom doors to get ideas!
Deciding on our daughter’s name was actually much easier than our son’s. My husband and I just didn’t like as many boy names and the ones we did like, we couldn’t agree on.
I liked the idea of using the same first letter for my kids. With my daughter’s name being Brielle, I was hoping to pick a B name for our son.
I actually always liked the name Brendan for a boy, but my husband already had 3 Brendan’s in his family! So that name was quickly nixed. A derivative of that name was Brayden which has been gaining popularity in the past few years and that was my top choice.
We also had a conversation about whether my husband wanted to pass down his name for his first born son. He has a family name, passed down from his grandfather. However, he didn’t feel that strongly about having his son named after him. Instead, we decided to use his name as our son’s middle name which was a nice way to still honor his family.
Since it was tough to agree on a name through our every day conversation, we decided to make a list. We individually made our own lists of about 10 names. Then as we talked about them, we gradually eliminated.
We eventually were able to combine our lists with the top 3 names standing. We both had our favorites, but neither of us were budging. I didn’t know how we were going to decide because I really couldn’t imagine my son having any of the names he chose and he felt the same way about mine.
Brayden was always my top choice and I was just trying to figure out how I could convince him to let me have my way! Then one night, we were up late talking about our family, toddler, and future baby and he just referred to our son as Brayden.
I was confused why he made that mistake, but then realized he did it on purpose. He was ready to agree on my favorite name and that’s when we decided on it.
Tips for choosing a name
Here are some questions I asked myself when picking names for my children. You can rank them in order of priority for your family because not all of them will be as important as others.
- Do you want to use a family name or initial?
- Does it have a nice meaning to it?
- Does it have meaning to us or our family?
- Are there nicknames for this name that we want to use or avoid?
- Is it too popular?
- Is it too unique?
- Does the name sound well with your last name?
- Are there any negative associations you have with it?
- What will his initials be?
- What will that name sound like when they’re an adult or professional?
The biggest advice is to ignore what others think or have to say about names you are considering or choose. It’s such a personal decision for you and your family so don’t let any other outside influencers change your mind.
Once you have it narrowed down to 2-4 names, I suggest picking one name per week during your pregnancy, and referring to your baby as that name. Every time you talk about “the baby,” call her by that name. When you refer to her nursery or her movements in your belly, call her by that name.
At the end of that week, change it to another name. Do this for several weeks with your top choices to see which name sticks and feels the most genuine to you. Once you start actually referring to your baby as this name, you will feel even more of a connection to her.
Here are some strong boy name (first and middle) examples. Also, check out 43 Beautifully Feminine baby Girls Names.
I hope you liked some of these strong boy names. Just know that the name you pick will be just right for him. It may feel weird at first to call your baby by their name, but soon it will feel so natural and fit in your family perfectly!
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