Love is a beautiful feeling that everyone should experience in their life. There is such beauty and comfort to love and be loved and humans crave that feeling at all points in their life.
Love affirmations can help anyone who may be feeling in a love funk to start thinking positive about both giving and receiving love.
The ability to love and be loved comes naturally for most people. However, some may really need to work at it.
Whether that work may be to find the feelings and emotions within themselves or somebody else, there can be an effort when it comes to romance and love.
What are Love Affirmations?
As a certified hypnotist, Eli Bliliuos from the NYC Hypnosis Center understands the power of affirmations. An affirmation tells the unconscious mind, as well as the universe, what it is you desire.
Affirmations can help in any relationship challenges. This can include:
- Overcoming a Fear of Abandonment so you can be more approachable
- To be emotionally available and open to bring love into your life
- Getting Over a Relationship
- Dating Confidence
- Insecurity in Relationships
- Fear of Commitment
- Letting go of Relationships from the past
- Bringing attraction to oneself
- Loving and Accepting yourself
Not only are love affirmations great to be spoken to your self, but they should be spoken to your partner as well.
“Words of affirmation are an essential part of any relationship. One of the Five Love Languages, words of affirmation can remind someone of their value and self-worth.” states LizAnn Lightfoot, author.
“They can help them feel valued and respected, and remind them of their strengths or best qualities.” Lightfoot explains.
Loving Yourself as the First Step
Just the mention of the word love creates a warmth in a human heart.
Yet there are so many who struggle to allow themselves to open up in a way that they could be loved. That, or they, themselves, do not offer this love to someone else.
The reason for this could be understood in a simple yet profound law of the Universe – you cannot offer the world what you do not offer yourself first!
This means that most human beings are deprived of their own love. They are unable to see their beauty and worth through their own eyes, that they do not have it in them to love someone else.
Shikha Rastogi, a Master Certified Life Coach in Self-Love suggests that “When we are unable to see our own worth, we also assume that we are unlovable. Therefore, we block all possibilities of someone else offering love to us because we believe that we are unworthy of their love!”
The only way to learn to let go of the struggle to love others, and to be loved by them, is to start by loving ourselves first!
Affirmations of Love in Different Types
There are of course different types of love that we give and receive. The love that you have for your spouse or romantic partner will be different than the love you have for your parent, which is different from the love you have for your child, friends, cousins, etc.
It’s up to you to understand what type of love you want to give and receive from that person in order to be able to love in a positive and effective way.
Manifesting Love Into Your Life
“When it comes to love and being loved, the root of the matter is being open to receiving the love you desire and letting it in.” explains Alyssa Pfennig, intuitive coach and Certified Yoga Therapist (C-IAYT).
Subconsciously, we energetically block the love we desire.
It may be because we have been hurt so many times and struggle with being vulnerable again.
Many times this is not just a matter of opening our hearts, but first working with the energy of the root and sacral chakras in order to feel safe, secure and worthy of love.
Then, we can do the work of opening our heartspace.
Bliliuos suggests utilizing both affirmations and a manifestation journal.
Affirmations are a tool for manifestation. Affirmations should be said daily and out loud.
So let’s say you want to manifest love in your life. As you say the affirmations, imagine a future you, that has the love you desire.
If you’re looking for love attraction affirmations, read below for plenty that will help bring love into your life.
What are the Affirmations I Should Use to Find Love?
Positive love affirmations are a way to help both yourself or your partner. Here are some suggestions from many professionals including Suzannah Weiss, Sex and Love Coach; Sameera Sullivan, Relationship Expert; Rachel Davis, SoulFactors; Shokouh, Everlur; and more.
These love affirmations will help you to manifest that love back into your heart and mind and bring you back to that earlier place of romance and love.
Love Attraction Affirmations – To Attract and Find Love
I deserve true love in my life.
I am ready and open to receive true love.
The universe is sending me my soulmate.
The universe wants me to find true love.
I am ready to give my heart to my soulmate.
I am open to giving and receiving love
I will be happy in my next relationship.
I reflect the traits I desire to attract in a partner.
My next relationship will be affectionate and loving.
I open up my heart to receive love.
Love comes to me from all angles and in all directions.
Every barrier hindering me from receiving love must be removed now.
I give love to others, and others give it to me.
I am deserving of a great love that fills my heart and warms my soul.
I embody the love I desire to receive.
I attract the type of people I desire in my life.
I know that true love exists and is coming closer to me daily.
It is safe for me to give and receive real love
I am deserving of love and respect
I am in the process of finding someone deserving of the love I have to give.
I have the power to love and be loved.
I will create my own love story.
I deserve love like how my father loves my mom.
It is safe for me to love and be loved
I am worthy of true love.
I will have my own happy ending.
I attract supportive and loving people into my life.
It’s safe to follow my heart.
Love Affirmations When You’re In Love – To Love Deeper
I am in a joyous, intimate, relationship with a person who truly loves me.
I am grateful for the loving people in my life.
I am loved and completed and accepted.
I seek to give love in all areas of my life.
I am grateful for the love I have.
I am so grateful to receive the love I deserve
My love is powerful and unconditional.
I am loved by my family and friends.
My dreams and reality are filled with love.
I am supported.
It is safe for me to ask for what I want from my partner and expect to receive it.
I am loved.
I am worthy of all the love, romance, and amazing experiences I want.
Love Affirmations to Say to a Partner or Friend
Love affirmations that acknowledge the effort your significant other is putting into the relationship, or a particular situation, are so important.
It shows them that you care and value everything they do for you and for the benefit of the relationship.
If I could have designed a partner for myself, they would have looked just like you.
I smile whenever I think of you.
I couldn’t do this without you.
Your support means so much to me
Thank you for….
You did such a great job. That was not an easy thing to handle, but you handled it.
I know I can always count on you
I am so grateful for you.
You complete me.
Self-Love Affirmations – To Love Oneself First and Foremost
“When it comes to tips on how to love, be loved, and find love (or rather, attract love), the most important lesson is learning how to love ourselves.” states Chris Tompkins, LGBTQ Affirmative Psychology Life Coach.
Loving yourself begins with letting go of who we think we should be and embracing who we are. When we consciously love ourselves we allow love in and we become more accepting of others.
Tompkins states, “The moment I became willing to look at the parts of myself that I didn’t want people to see, and accept that those areas were worthy and deserving of love, my life began to improve.”
“I no longer projected my fear and judgment onto the outside world.”
We can only learn to love ourselves if we are willing to learn who we are.
Self-love is not only a gift for ourselves, it’s also a gift for future generations.
I am enough and I have enough.
I love myself and others love me.
I am beautiful and perfect as I am.
I am always in control of my life.
I am strong and capable.
I am beautiful inside and out.
I deserve to be loved.
I love and approve of myself.
I choose only loving and accepting thoughts and feelings.
I am perfect and enough just the way I am.
I am confident.
I don’t have to settle for anyone that doesn’t serve me.
I am kind.
I am happy and successful.
I am whole and complete.
I am compassionate.
I am safe.
I love myself unconditionally.
It’s okay for me to express myself.
Who I am matters.
I trust myself.
I am lovable because I exist.
Being me is all I need to be.
I love myself for who I am.
My opinion matters.
It’s okay for me to feel the way I do.
It’s okay for me to like what I like
I deserve to live the life of my dreams
I am deserving.
I am worthy of being loved
I can do anything I put my heart and mind to.
I listen to my heart.
I am capable of amazing things.
I deserve to fully love myself and allow myself to be fully loved.
I get to say no and still love myself.
No one is me and that is my super power.
I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.
Other people’s opinions of you don’t matter.
I am wonderfully and imperfectly made.
The universe loves me, else I’d have never been born. The stars love me or the sky would be dark forever. I love me or I’d not be finding love so fiercely.
Strategies and Tips for Going Further Than Affirmations
Love affirmations are a great way to bring a positive force in your life. Here are some ways to increase that positivity in love for both yourself and partner or future partner.
1. “Open When” Letters
“Open When” letters can be a beautiful way to share love affirmations in your relationship. This is a popular tradition in the military community.” Lizann Lightfoot, author of Open When: Letters of Encouragement for Military Spouses.
These are motivational letters that can be written ahead of time to be opened and read when they are needed most.
Military spouses or girlfriends often prepare a stack of these letters to send in a care package with topics like “Open When It’s Your Birthday,” or “Open When You Really Miss Me.”
You can use this strategy to show your love through thoughtful words. Write letters to your loved one, even if you see them every day.
Share short messages for them to open when they are facing a difficult challenge, feeling frustrated, or need an extra reminder of your love.
Write down the things you love most about your partner or your favorite memories together. Either give them the letters in person, or hide them to be discovered later.
These love affirmations can be saved and treasured for years to come!
2. Using a Manifestation Journal
A manifestation journal uses the law of attraction to bring abundance into our lives. By recording what we wish to attract into our lives we are asking the universe for help.
We fuel our intention by holding our goals and desires in mind as we journal. Similar to a vision board, we direct our intention and energy in order to bring/manifest what we want in our lives.
Any type of notebook is fine as long as it is the only place you journal and dedicated only to journaling.
When we begin to journal it is very important to be specific and detailed. Imagining what we desire as we journal gives it more energy.
In order to incorporate the Daily Law of Attraction I suggest that you:
- Focus on Your Goals
- Visualize/Imagine reaching your goals
- Journal Your Goals in your manifestation journal
- Practice/Utilize Affirmations
- Write what you are grateful for in a different journal before going to sleep.
3. Always prioritize communication
Regularly talking about your daily events shouldn’t be all.
“Communicate your love; it sounds so simple yet so many people do it so little, or don’t do it at all,” states Nina Nguyen, sex educator and LGBTQ+ expert.
Either because they take it for granted and assume their partner already knows how much they love them, or because they’re more of an ‘actions-over-words’ person.
The truth is, people don’t realize how powerful it is to say to your partner how much they mean to you.
4. Be Open and Intentional
“Love can come from unexpected places. Be open to meeting new people or trying something new.” states Heather Thom, Registered Professional Counselor and Relationship Coach.
This will broaden your chances of finding someone you might not meet in your everyday routine. Have a clear idea of what type of relationship you’re looking for or what you need from a partner.
This can help increase your chances of relationship satisfaction while being with someone you’re compatible with.
5. Positive Mindset
Relationship expert John Gottman coined the term “The Magic Ratio.” This suggests that for every 1 negative feeling or interaction with our partners, there must be 5 positive feelings or interactions to offset that 1 negative.
Actively train yourself to find the positive things in your relationships to preserve and keep the love alive.
More Tips on How to Love and Be Loved (From the Pros)
• You may struggle to be loved because of past relationship experiences. Practice self-compassion by evaluating your past choices, contemplating what changes you want to make going forward, and letting the past go. – Mimi Paul
• To be loved you have to face your fears and be vulnerable. When you meet new people, resist the urge to pretend to be someone you’re not. Though it can be tough, try your best to be comfortable with yourself, and showcase your own interests, and quirks.
• Everyone deserves a loving relationship if they want one. If you’d like to be loved by a romantic partner, try putting yourself out there and try dating new people whether you meet them via dating apps or in mundane places. Try to keep a positive outlook and try interacting more than you used to.
• Know what you’re looking for in someone else to understand your relationship needs. Writing down what you consider to be the most important traits of your potential partner is a good way to figure out what you actually mean when you say you’re looking for love so you don’t end up wasting time with people whose vision don’t align with yours.
• Don’t look for someone who sweeps you off your feet. Instead look for someone who likes give-and-take, who seeks your opinion and considers it.
• If a relationship you felt was leading to love doesn’t work out, you may feel hurt for a very long time. It’s important to eventually try again. When you do connect with someone special, it will be worth the heartache you experienced on the journey.
• Find a coach or a therapist that is your person to talk about the past, present and future.
• Admit that we are failiable and make mistakes, none of us is perfect.
• Find a supportive group of women who share our interests and concerns.
• Learn to trust and listen to your inner voice.
• Find a spiritual practice that feeds us, especially when our kids are young.
• Church, yoga, meditation, prayer, mindfulness are all good strategies to help us to love ourselves.
• Create an affirmation that is uniquely yours, that you can use when you are feeling overwhelmed.
• Love without expectations.
• Love someone for who they are. Do not try to change them. Love who they are and who they are capable of being.
• Love yourself and sure enough people will fall in love with you. Be your most authentic self and people will be attracted to you. When you radiate positivity and love, you will attract the same people.
• You can find love not by searching, but by loving yourself. While it’s normal to continuously be growing. It’s important to love and understand yourself before you find love, or ask for others to find love in you.
Love Affirmations for Marriage
For anyone who is or has ever been married, you know that it is not always easy. Marriage can be work which may change the way you love.
When you fall in love with your future spouse, the honeymoon phase in butterflies and roses. It’s that “can’t eat, can’t sleep, over-the-moon in love” type of feeling.
However, as real world issues take over, that love can change.
You’ve already felt a deep immense love for your spouse, so it shouldn’t be hard to get that back, but it does take work.
One of the things that is necessary is being told that you are appreciated. In marriage or even in a parent/child relationship, being appreciated is important.
Being told that you are loved and respected.
Affirmations are so essential and help that you don’t feel used or undervalued.
Loving other people helps you to see the beauty in yourself and love yourself more. Loving yourself helps you feel happy and want to give to other people.
So, these affirmations of love will benefit everyone.